I don’t think it’s impractical to say that a lot of wives go through some period of loneliness in their marriage, whether it is early in marriage, or even 20 years later! This could be a result of moving away from family and friends to somewhere new, others moving away, leaving our comfort zones, or just the fact that things change once you get married! Whatever the reason, know that first and foremost YOU ARE NOT ALONE. I have been there too; I love my husband and God has blessed me in the mightiest way by bringing a God-honoring and loving man into my life. He shows me every day the love that Jesus shows His bride. However there are times when the loneliness creeps in. I miss my best friends, my mom, my family. But the Lord desires for us not to feel lonely!
I hope that what the Lord has shown me about this helps others of you that may be feeling this way as well! Here are 3 Tips of Encouragement for the Lonely Wife:
- Know that God is ALWAYS faithful. He never leaves our side. 2 Thessalonians 3:3 says, “But the Lord is faithful. He will establish you and guard you against the evil one.” He is always there, no matter where we go or whether we have drifted away. It says that He has established us and not only is He faithful but He also guards us against the evil one a.k.a. Satan! Loneliness is from the evil one, not from the Lord. The Lord desires relationship and fellowship with us; we can always turn to Him for comfort.
- Examine your hearts for places where you’ve let something else become an idol. It says in 1 Corinthians 3:11, “For no one can lay any foundation other than the one already laid, which is Jesus Christ.” There are so many times that I find myself placing my security and identity in things above my relationship with the Lord. My husband, our ministry, work, church activities… all of these are great things too! But when they become more important than the ONE who gave them to us, our focus gets off him and we start to feel that emptiness that only Christ can fill.
- Pray for the Lord to bring people into your life. In James 4:2, he writes that “you do not have because you do not ask God!” God is not too big or too little for our prayers. The prayers that go unanswered are the ones that we don’t lay at his feet! Do you want a friend or group of friends in your life? Ask! Like I mentioned earlier, we are created for relationship. We are meant to share our struggles and pray for each other, encourage and uplift each other. He wants to give us close community because we aren’t meant to go through this life all alone.
I hope that whatever feeling of loneliness that you have is taken away and replaced with the Joy of the Lord! And for those of you who may not be in a season of life such as this, help me lift up other wives in prayer! YOU ARE NOT ALONE. 🙂